NY TIMES — Oct 17 — In June, the federal immigration service froze 10,000 visa applications for foreign fiancées because they did not conform with a law that went into effect in March. Imbra (International Marriage Broker Regulation Act) is intended to give foreign women and the American government more information about the men who seek so-called mail-order brides. Under Imbra, dating agencies that specialize in matching American men with women overseas must first obtain information about a man’s criminal record and marital history, relay it to the woman and then get her consent before disclosing her contact information. Men must also provide this information to the government when applying for a fiancée visa. The immigration service said 37,500 women entered the country last year on fiancée visas or temporary visas for spouses of American citizens. Up 50% from 2002 and a fourfold increase over 1998. One-third to one-half of these visas were for women who had met their American partners through matchmaking brokers. FULL ARTICLE @ NY TIMES
I have travelled widely to Europe and Asia and I want to share this well-known observation – American feminist women have a terrible reputation among men around the world. They are widely perceived as obese, selfish, spoiled, boorish and emotionally demanding. They are also considered rather overbearing and hysterical. It’s well known amongst expat communities around the world that American feminist women are shunned by men outside of U.S.A.
On the contrary, decent and well-off American men are generally viewed as the “cream of the crop” – highly coveted and desirable…. These gentlemen enjoy a great reputation among foreign ladies who perceive them to be respectful, nurturing, responsible, well-educated and financially secure. In addition, these women believe that American men make great husbands, especially in contrast to native men, who are often disrespectful, abusive and unfaithful.
The problem in this country is that the “best in the world” are often paired up with the “worst in the world”…. a complete mismatch. It’s like a highschool Prom King dating an ugly, domineering and boorish girl. It’s very unlikely that this type of relationship will work out. Sadly, this seems to be the case, as the marriages “made in America” have a higher divorce rate (55 to 60 percent) than in the cross-cultural marriages (15 to 20 percent). So why is the risk of divorce so much lower when an American gentleman marries a “mail-order bride”? In a nutshell, it’s because our Prom King is marrying a Prom Queen, who is beautiful, intelligent, feminine, appreciative and devoted.
A growing number of affluent American men are rejecting American feminist women and going overseas to embrace loverly, young foreign brides. A nearly fourfold increase in foreign women entering the U.S. on fiance(e) visas (over the last 7 years) supports this contention. It’s no secret that by pursuing foreign women, men can find much younger, more attractive and devoted partners than what’s available at home.
Take Tiger Woods, for example. This man has essentially rejected all American women and instead, he went overseas and married a lovely Swedish woman. Tiger is a one very smart gentleman…. I bet he knows (that) marriage to a foreign lady would mean a lower risk of future divorce!
Let me tell you about the relationship between my loverly Russian wife and myself. Despite our 21 year age difference, our relationship is based on mutual love and admiration…. our love is real and valid. Also, our bond is strengthened by our common interests, continual romance and mutual respect for each other. As with most Russian women, my wife is independent and has a strong will. Our relationship is a 50-50 equal partnership. There is no control and no domination.
My experience, as described above, is very typical of most marriages to “mail-order brides” – in contrast to many marriages “made in America”, there are no bitchiness or nagging, no hysteria or drama and no belligerant or confrontational behaviors…. only mutual love and admiration.
Therefore…., when a decent and affluent American gentleman marries a young, loverly foreign bride, what’s created is truely, a match made in heaven – the best matched with the best….
And IMBRA is really a scornful feminist response to this growing international romance.
http://www.online-dating-rights.com/blog/lestat/index.php?
I want to inform modern American feminists of this new reality: most American men do not want you. They do not want to date you and they certainly do not want to marry you. Do you know why? Because any relationships with you pose too much legal and financial risks to American men. The enormous risks of divorce and financial insolvency that men face when they marry you is no longer justified by paltry (often minimum) rewards that you bring to a marriage. Thus, you are being scorned and ignored by a growing number of affluent American men who prefer more feminine and traditional foreign women who offer youth, beauty and loyalty, the qualities you lack. These men realize that by marrying foreign women, they incur lower risk of divorce and greater probability of successful marriage and happiness. Therefore,… many of you will never marry or have children… you will end up like one of your own, Maria Cantwell – old, un-married, completely childless, living with mommy… You need to understand that by depriving and denying your biological instinct to create, love and nurture a family, modern feminism has created a royal road to oblivion that ends with your emptiness, bitterness and despair. Whatever traits or value you carried in your genes will stop with you. No children, no legacy… When you die, you truely die.
A growing number of men now make no apologies for rejecting any modern feminist women. The enormous risks incurred in marrying an American feminist are simply not justified by minimal or no rewards that these relationships bring. An American gentleman now has to walk through a minefield of risks including false abuse claims, financial bankrupcy (from divorce), and denial of child visitation rights. Thus, any intelligent and self-respecting man would reject this modern feminist paradigm of marriage.
http://www.online-dating-rights.com/blog/lestat/index.php?showentry=30
IMBRA And Scorned American Feminists.
I want to inform modern American feminists of this new reality: most American men do not want you. They do not want to date you and they certainly do not want to marry you. Do you know why? Because any relationships with you pose too much legal and financial risks to American men. The enormous risks of divorce and financial insolvency that men face when they marry you is no longer justified by paltry (often minimum) rewards that you bring to a marriage. Thus, you are being scorned and ignored by a growing number of affluent American men who prefer more feminine and traditional foreign women who offer youth, beauty and loyalty, the qualities you lack. These men realize that by marrying foreign women, they incur lower risk of divorce and greater probability of successful marriage and happiness. Therefore,… many of you will never marry or have children… you will end up like one of your own, Maria Cantwell – old, un-married, completely childless, living with mommy… You need to understand that by depriving and denying your biological instinct to create, love and nurture a family, modern feminism has created a royal road to oblivion that ends with your emptiness, bitterness and despair. Whatever traits or value you carried in your genes will stop with you. No children, no legacy… When you die, you truely die.
A growing number of men now make no apologies for rejecting any modern feminist women. The enormous risks incurred in marrying an American feminist are simply not justified by minimal or no rewards that these relationships bring. An American gentleman now has to walk through a minefield of risks including false abuse claims, financial bankrupcy (from divorce), and denial of child visitation rights. Thus, any intelligent and self-respecting man would reject this modern feminist paradigm of marriage.
Another Logical Fallacy Of IMBRA
Online-dating relationships essentially involve three distinct, progressive stages:
1. Stage One is the Introduction Stage, in which people first greet each other (“hello”), exchange letters, e-mails, phone calls, etc.
2. Stage Two is the Courtship Stage, in which people actually meet, get to know each other better and advance their relationship. If the couple met via an International Matchmaking Organization (IMO), the gentleman usually travels to meet the lady in her native country.
3. Finally, Stage Three is the Consular Visa Stage. At this time, the couple is engaged (or married), and the lady applies for a fiance(e)/spousal visa so she can move to the U.S. to join her partner (if her visa is approved).
IMBRA imposes two extensive criminal background checks on all U.S. male clients of IMOs:
1) at the Introduction Stage (at the level of initial contact) and
2) at the Consular Visa Stage (during fiance(e)/spousal visa application)
The two current lawsuits against IMBRA challenge the mandatory background checks at the Introduction Stage, but not at the Consular Visa Stage.
It is very important to emphasize that there has been no documented cases of violence against foreign women (by American men who met them via IMOs) during the Introduction and the Courtship Stages of online-dating relationships. This suggests that for foreign women, there is virtually no risk of physical abuse at these stages. Therefore, it is completely senseless to require unilateral disclosure of personal and criminal information of all American male clients of IMOs at the Introduction Stage (level of initial contact).
Foreign women will be adequately protected by having extensive criminal background check done on their fiance(e)s/spouses at the Consular Visa Stage, before they immigrate to this country.
The Tahirih Justice Center (the main proponent of IMBRA) have failed to give any reasonable explanation as to why mandatory background checks must also be done at the Introduction Stage, even though there is no risk of harm (to foreign women).
Furthermore, what is highly disturbing is that IMBRA provides exemptions (from having to do background checks on male clients) to Domestic Matchmaking Organizations (DMOs), despite numerous cases of brutal murder, rape and torture of women that occurred as result of contacts “facilitated” by these agencies.
And above all, what I find most appalling is that the Tahirih Justice Center continues to desperately defend these exemptions in Courts, even though eliminating them will help prevent many cases of murder, rape and exploitation of women.
IMBRA: Foreign Women Admired, American Feminist Women Scorned And Ignored
This post has been inspired by a recent opinion article published (August 22, 2006) in Forbes.com, “Don’t Marry Career Women”, by Michael Noer.
Guys: a word of advice. Marry Asian women or Russian women. Latin or non-Latin. Romanian or Bulgarian. Just, whatever you do, don’t marry an American woman…. Why? Because if many surveys are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage and a divorce….
The spread of radical feminism has led to decline of family values and higher divorce rate in American marriages. The consequences of divorce are devastating and include financial, emotional and physical losses. Moreover, divorce leads to higher psychological and behavior problems in children…. With a high failure rate of marriages “made in America” (over 50 percent) and its subsequent tragic consequences, it has become important for many American men to think “outside the box” and go abroad to find a bride. Every evidence indicate that marrying a foreign woman (instead of an American woman) leads to more successful marriage and significantly lower risk of divorce, reflecting perhaps, a greater degree of mutual devotion in these inter-cultural marriages.
Ahh….foreign women!
Beautiful, sophisticated, devoted, accomodating and appreciative….
Many foreign ladies come from a culture where family values are of paramount importance. Simple things often make them happy, such as a loving relationship, security and comfort. Most women care about their appearance and like to look feminine but they are not submissive. They also value personal responsibility and strong work ethic.
Foreign ladies, such as Russian ladies, naturally admire men, especially American men. These American gentlemen enjoy a great reputation among foreign ladies who perceive them to be nurturing, responsible, well-educated and financially secure. In addition, these women believe that American men make great husbands, especially in contrast to native men who are often abusive, cruel and unfaithful. (Unfortunately, American women are way down the scale in terms of desirability and are virtually ignored by foreign men who prefer to marry their more traditional native women).
It’s no secret that by dating foreign women, an older man can find a much younger, more attractive and traditional woman (such as any of the ladies pictured above) than what’s available at home. Most young foreign women judge a man more by his honesty and character than by his age or looks. Thus, it is realistic for an older American gentleman to find a considerably younger, more attractive foreign bride, often with an age difference of up to 20 or more years. Youth and beauty translate to fertility, or the ability to have healthy babies and for an older man, this is much more likely to occur with a young, loverly foreign bride than with an obese, middle-aged American woman.
International romance has grown considerably over the recent years as the world has become more globalized, bringing together many decent, successful American gentlemen with lovely, exotic foreign ladies. In most cases, these marriages are very successful, as indicated by a much lower divorce rate compared to those “made in America”. Many of these inter-cultural marriages are built upon strong family values, true companionship and mutual devotion. By the way, Tiger Woods, who is married to a beautiful Swedish lady, is a one very smart gentleman…. I bet he knows that marriage to a foreign woman would mean a lower risk of future divorce!
American men who have not been exposed to foreign women have no idea what they are missing out. And for those gentlemen who do have foreign bride dreams, do not let an idiotic law such as IMBRA get in the way of your happiness.
http://www.online-dating-rights.com/blog/lestat/index.php?
Mixed culture marriages have a higher chance of failure, last I heard.
Mark Brooks
Editor, Online Personals Watch
Actually, if you read Professor Scholes Report To Congress (1999) on “The Mail Order Bride Industry”, he states about 80 percent of mixed culture marriages are successful. This is much higher than 45 percent success rate(55 percent divorce rate) in the domestic marriages.