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Month: May 2007

Kevin Greene, AnotherFriend CEO – OPW Interview

Posted on May 18, 2007

Anotherfriend OPW INTERVIEW — May 18, 2007 — Kevin Greene is the CEO of Ireland's leading internet dating site, AnotherFriend.com.  This is the second of five OPW interviews on the subject of scamming in the internet dating industry. – Mark Brooks

What kind of scammers do you normally encounter in Europe and Ireland?
Firstly, someone dies and they have stashed away $30 million and if you send over some money they can transfer the money into your account and you get 50%.  These scammers will send messages to hundreds and hundreds of members. The second is the Russian angle. A girl develops relationships with a number of men on the site and basically tries to scam them for cash. “I’m trying to get my ticket to come over to Ireland and I don’t have enough money for the ticket,” etc.  Those are the main two types of scams that we’ve come across.

Is scamming a serious issue?
For us, we probably catch it pretty quickly and if we don’t catch it pretty quickly our members will let us know. It’s more of a problem for customer support when we get a 100 emails in from our members saying that somebody is scamming. It’s also an issue if we catch a scammer and delete their emails.  Then we have members saying, “I got a notification that I had this email in my inbox and its not there, where is it?” So from customer support point of view, it’s a lot of time but if we can catch it quickly it saves that problem.

Is it affecting your site’s reputation?
To a certain extent. Where we have some problems is in chargebacks because scammers will generally come in and pay straight away, then we get chargebacks. Obviously, we lose money and we get kind of fined for the chargebacks. Our gateway only allows so many chargebacks before they could possibly cut us off. That’s a big, big issue. Probably about 50% of the chargebacks tend to be from scammers.

So you could half your charge back rate if you didn’t have any scammers?
Yes. We would catch a lot of them but sometimes they actually come in and set up an account and upgrade and leave it for a month or two before they actually do anything with it. So it’s very hard to catch them at that stage.

Generally speaking what are you doing right now to combat scammers?
We have a number of different things that we’re doing. We block IP address based on location. Our membership primarily comes from Ireland and a certain percentage from the US, the UK, and Australia. We block pretty much the whole of Africa, Russia and a few other places. That certainly has reduced our chargebacks by 80%. Now people still get through because they could be in the US or whatever, which is a bit harder.

The other thing we do is we scan for certain keywords in the mail and if it matches the criteria we’ll stop the mail. The mail will never be sent but the person sending it thinks it is. They can see everybody but nobody can see them. I know a number of sites that are using that system and I would say it’s pretty common in the industry. If they’re in the ‘ghost table’ and they try to make a payment a page will just keep saying the card was rejected. We also have triggers. If an extreme amount of mail is being sent by a particular user. If its over a certain number of emails in a certain time period it rings an alarm bell somewhere.

What would you save if you could eradicate scamming?
If we had no system, it would be a lot of revenue. We have a pretty good system in here at the moment very few get through. What I would worry about is the problems that we would have with Mastercard or Visa.

How can the industry work together to combat scammers?
One is educating the users, but the problem with educating them is you don’t want to scare them either, especially if they’re new to online dating. I think it’s important that your customer service is pretty much on the ball and you have systems in place that minimize scamming activity. I think it would be great if there was a central resource whereby the industry as a whole got together. But the problem is anyone I’ve talked to is very secretive about what they’re doing. Personally, I reckon everyone’s doing the same thing but no one’s saying what they’re doing. It’s kind of surprising that people still fall for scammers. It happens though.

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Chemistry.Com’s ‘Great Mate Debate’

Posted on May 18, 2007

MarriageMY FOX — May 17 — Is marriage dead?
– 50% of U.S. adults have a different opinion of marriage than their parents.
– 58% of U.S. adults think couples who live together in a committed relationship don’t need to marry as long as they are happy.
– 78% of U.S. adults say the divorce rate in the U.S. is increasing because people get married for the wrong reasons.
– 76% of single adults disagree that marriage is a top priority for them right now.
– 66% of U.S. adults say a long-term, committed relationship is as important as marriage for a happy and fulfilling life.
– 85% agree that a person can be happy without getting married.

The study was commissioned by Chemistry.com and conducted by Harris Interactive. FULL ARTICLE @ MY FOX

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eHarmony’s Launches Premium Personality Profile

Posted on May 18, 2007

Eharmony_6_2PR NEWSWIRE — May 16 — eHarmony now offers an expanded version of the free profile providing members with a greater understanding of how their personality facets impact personal relationships. The Premium Personality Profile provides an individual with analysis of 15 additional aspects of personality not found in the basic profile such as social awareness, inquisitiveness, and adventure and is available for $9.99 for subscribers. The Premium Personality Profile was developed by eHarmony Labs and is based on a study of ~ 10,000 people.

Mark Brooks: eHarmony is facing more competition from Chemistry.com and need to squeeze more revenue out of their existing userbase. Add-on sales are more important to the industry these days. Just take a look at Match.com’s sign up process now. You can buy Dr Phil’s MindFindBind guidance service ($7.99/mo, $22.32 for 3 months), MatchTalk ($5.99/mo, $17.18 for 3 months), Email Read Notifications ($3.99/mo, $11.44 for 3 months), and a Highlighted Portrait ($2.84/mo, $8.15 for 3 months). On top of that Match has a few coregistration partners that they are earning a buck or two per registrant from.

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Motodate – Meet While in Traffic

Posted on May 18, 2007

Motodate PR NEWSWIRE — May 15 — Motodate.com allows people to contact individuals they see sitting in traffic next to them. Singles put stickers on their windows with a unique four-digit code. Others can then type in the number and view their profile at motodate.com an contact them. FULL ARTICLE @ EARTH TIMES

Mark Brooks: A fun and crazy idea, which is why it’s getting a little press.

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Does eHarmony Offer Same-sex Matching?

Posted on May 18, 2007

Eharmony_6 EHARMONY BLOG — May 17 —

  • No ‘eHarmony’ for gays, by C. Seely, Southern Voice, Dec. 19, 2003
    The matchmaking site doesn’t allow same-sex couplings because some members could be “turned off” by references to “MSM [men seeking men]” or “WSW” on the site, according to Dr. Steve Carter, director of research and product development. “A lot of the core audience for the service are the Christian religious conservatives who would be turned off.”  The “phenomenon” of gay singles who want to find long-lasting relationships through the site is “relatively recent” since the site’s inception in 2000, Carter said.
  • Love Machines, by Jennifer Hahn, LA CityBeat, Feb. 23, 2005
    … Marylyn Warren denies that eHarmony’s exclusion of gays and lesbians has anything to do with its founder’s religious principles. “We just don’t want to be involved in something we don’t know anything about. Our goal is to create good heterosexual families, I guess.”
  • eHarmony: Heart and soul, by J. Kornblum, USA Today, May 18, 2005
    Warren says eHarmony promotes heterosexual marriage, about which he has done extensive research. He says he does not know enough about gay and lesbian relationships to do same-sex matching. It “calls for some very careful thinking. Very careful research.” He adds that same-sex marriage is illegal in most states. “We don’t really want to participate in something that’s illegal.”
  • My date with Mr. eHarmony, by R. Traister, SALON, June 10, 2005
    “First, we’re into marriage,” Warren said, pointing out that gay unions remain illegal in almost every state. “Where Focus on the Family and a lot of these other places come from is that there are six places in the Bible that say homosexuality is wrong,” he said. The hairs on the back of my neck stood up. But then he continued: “On the other hand, in the Old Testament if you work on the Sabbath day and you’re guilty then you should be shot.” I was surprised to hear him play out his internal debate so openly. Warren brought up his best friend’s daughter, a lesbian who has two children with her partner. “She’s a dear person to us, and a very strong spiritual person,” he said. “And when I start seeing things like that, I think we’ve got to start to think about that maybe this can work.”

The full article was originally published at eHarmony blog, but is no longer available.

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Chemistry.com in Spat With eHarmony.com

Posted on May 17, 2007

Chemistry THE WASHINGTON POST — May 16 — A name-calling catfight, complete with accusations and counter-accusations, has broken out between eHarmony.com (13 million registrants since 2000) and an offshoot of Match.com over a subject familiar to any luckless dater. Rejection. Chemistry's (2 million registrants since 2006) TV commercials and magazine ads feature young men and women wondering why their applications to join eHarmony were turned down. No fair, says eHarmony, concerned that its rival's ads suggest that eHarmony is being arbitrary or discriminatory in turning people away. It wants Chemistry.com's ads changed or dropped. eHarmony’s legal counsel, Lanny Davis (who spun the media for President Bill Clinton during his “relationship problems” with Monica Lewinsky), last week asked NBC and People magazine to stop running Chemistry.com's current ads, or at least insist on some fine-print qualifiers about what “1 million rejected” really means. (As of Friday, NBC hadn't responded to Davis; People magazine said that it wasn't taking sides in the feud and that it would continue running the ads.) eHarmony turns people away for controversial reasons. One is being gay. CEO, Greg Waldorf says eHarmony's matching system is based on psychological research about heterosexual relationships. Because it doesn't have similar data on gay people, he says, the company isn't confident that it can offer successful matches to same-sex couples. “I'm not saying anything precludes us from going into the same-sex market in the future,” he says, “but it's not a service we offer now.” Firing back, eHarmony accuses Chemistry's parent company of hypocrisy. It notes that IAC made formal overtures to buy eHarmony in 2004, but a deal never came off.

Mark Brooks: These days the best kind of advertising spawns press, word-of-mouth, and riles up the competition. Match.com has kicked off on every level with their campaign. This year we should surely see a free version of eharmony startup. Perhaps the fresh faced (new) Mary.com or LTR.com, or the current dominant free dating market leader PlentyofFish.com. Beyond that, MyPartnerPerfect.com is due to launch shortly as the quality, long term focused, personality profiling, all gay matchmaking site, headed by the young Patrick H.Perrine.

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comScore: Community Sites and Online Personals Gain

Posted on May 16, 2007

ComscoreWEB HOST DIRECTORY — May 16 — With a 24% increase versus March, the gay/lesbian community sites ranked as the top-gaining category overall for the month, led by Planetout.com with 767,000 visitors (up 17%), Adam4Adam.com with 348,000 visitors, and BigMuscle.com with 238,000 visitors (up 92%). Women’s sites enjoyed a 7% increase in April, led by iVillage.com (17 million visitors, up 9%). Personals sites gained in April (up 5% versus March), led by True.com with 4.9 million visitors (up 10%), Yahoo! Personals with 4.8 million visitors (up 14%), and Singlesnet.com with 3.9 million visitors (up 23%). FULL ARTICLE @ WEB HOST DIRECTORY

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Userplane Upgrades IM, Adds Presence and Buddy List

Posted on May 16, 2007

UserplanePRESS RELEASE — May 15 — Userplane released Webmessenger 2, a major enhancement to the world's most widely used Web-based instant messaging platform. The new offering integrates IM, user presence and buddy list, giving online communities three products in one. Members of participating online communities can now display when they are online, easily manage buddies, find other online users and launch IMs. "Online communities turn to Userplane Webmessenger to build that real sense of belonging," said Michael Jones, Userplane’s CEO and VP of AOL. "The cost for all the new functionality still starts at free." Enhancements include:

  • Presence, the ability to detect which site members are online at any given time.
  • Userlist, the friendly face of Userplane Presence, enables users to upload images and icons, set custom here and away messages, manage their buddies and IM each other, all from one easy-to-use, brandable space.
  • Improved rich text, voice, and video IM communication.

More than 150,000 social networking communities, media entertainment properties and niche communities deploy Userplane Webmessenger, enabling millions of daily users in more than 30 countries to communicate. Userplane offers free, ad-supported Userplane Webmessenger 2 packages and is planning to launch an advertising revenue-sharing program in the next 60 days.

Mark Brooks: I had lunch with the CEO of World Friends Networks today. They also use Userplane, along with PlentyofFish, MySpace and a virtual who’s who of internet dating and social networking.

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Nelson Rodriguez, Love Access CEO – OPW Interview

Posted on May 15, 2007

LoveaccessOPW INTERVIEW — May 16, 2007 — Scammers are a proverbial pain in the neck for internet dating and social networking companies. Over the next ten days I’ll list five interviews on your least favorite subject matter.  These will be slow news days while I’m at the Asian Internet Dating Conference. Nelson Rodriguez is CEO of LoveAccess, along with TogetherChristian.com and MatchRanger.

What kind of scamming do you encounter?
Primary scamming comes in three flavors. The first flavor is the typical Nigerian Ghana. Over the last 6 months to a year, they’ve changed tactics. They say they are either a traveling businessman and they’re overseas or they’re a young girl overseas. They befriend people and instantly fall in love with their target. Then there’s the tragic event that occurs. Their mother’s very sick back in the States and they don’t have enough money to go travel back or they were coming home from work and they were mugged and had their rent money stolen and they’re going to be thrown out by their landlord.

The second set of scams is where they’re basically trying to find targets for mail drops. The scammer will make up some story where they are traveling abroad and they have an important package, something happened (e.g. their laptop failed) and they need to get it delivered, and they need someone they can trust that can sign for it and forward it over to them wherever they are. (The merchant ships the laptop before discovering the purchase was made off a stolen credit card. The forwarder sends the laptop on to the scammer in Nigeria, etc. The forwarder may be liable for the laptop).

Then there’s the Russian mail order bride scammers, which fall into two distinct groups. There’s the one set where a girl will string “x” number of men along at one time, befriend them, talk to them on the phone, instant message them, then  the tragic event occurs where they need some financial assistance. Then there’s actually a second set which is quasi-legitimate. There are actual dating agencies in Russia who charge top dollar, I mean ridiculous amounts of money, for these Russian women to find them American men. So basically the girl comes down to the dating office and signs up for whatever service and the agency then goes and floods all the dating sites with their profiles to get the correspondence going immediately to their Yahoo or Hotmail addresses. So the girl pretty much doesn’t know anything about where this person was contacted. They go to the office, because most of them don’t even have computers, open up their Hotmail account and they correspond back and forth. So the dating agencies in Russia use our dating sites to basically spam everybody to try and get a few leads for these girls.

The majority of scammers are just looking for money. And then the other form of abuse we encounter, which is not a scam per se but still a problem for us, where our site is used for credit card verifications. What happens is, they want to buy something at a Best Buy or Circuit City or something and these guys need to make sure that when the transaction goes through its perfect the first time around. So they’ll basically just run credit cards on us first before they go make their big purchase. This is a problem for us. We end up voiding the transaction if we catch it in time but the sad part is there’s no mechanism to be able to report to Visa or Mastercard or Amex that this is a very suspicious transaction and we believe that this credit card could be compromised. There’s no recourse for it. So there is no repercussions for them to use us. That’s really problematic because if we get enough of those we could lose our merchant account.

Have you encountered much in the way of affiliate scamming?
There’s always some scam they’re trying. And even the affiliate scamming guys have gotten really, really good. Before they would just go at it with a brute force method and all of a sudden make 500 accounts in one day. Now they’ll make 2 or 3 accounts every day and they’ll spread them out over the day. The CPA’s that we have to pay these days is very significant. Any affiliate program we use we pretty much have to assume we’re going to have to write off 10% to 15%.

Is that worthwhile for them?
Yeah I mean look if you make 10 profiles a day you know its $40 a day in commissions times 30 and, especially overseas, $40 a day turns into a lot of money. So like I said it’s not that hard, it takes a matter of 2 minutes to make a profile and they’ve gotten very, very, very good at doing it.

How much worse has scamming gotten and how serious of an issue is it?
I don’t think the levels have really changed much. It’s always been just a part of the business that you deal with. But as a percentage of the business as a whole it’s actually very small. You figure maybe 5% or even less of the profiles are fraudulent but that small percentage causes a lot of headache because in order to catch the 5% you have to scan the 95% to make sure everything is good and that’s what adds to all the operational overhead that we get. It’s very frustrating to catch that 5%.

Beyond the financial effects the scammers have, how do they affect your site’s reputation?
Oh it’s terrible. People send us customer service emails, ‘well I’m thinking about upgrading but I don’t know if this person is real or not.’ It’s not good for a business if the consumer isn’t confident what they’re getting is legitimate. Then it becomes very problematic because let’s say the person upgrades and then we catch the scammer, they’ve upgraded and the account they were trying to contact is basically banned, and these people are frustrated. They get very upset and then question anything and any kind of contact throughout the whole site. It leads to a full loss of confidence. If you’re getting let’s say five emails today and three of them are coming in from scammers, any reasonable person is just going to assume that all of them are fraudulent and basically you’re going to sign off the site. It hurts both sides and ultimately we’re the main losers here. It’s definitely a big problem.

We’re offering matchmaking services and doing background checks and that’s been very, very effective in keeping the scammers away. Most of them won’t come through but a couple of them have tried. They still try. They’re very, very aggressive and they’re always looking for new creative avenues.

You have to remember one thing with these guys, this is how they make their living. They have nothing to do all day long except try to figure out how to beat the system, work around it, and look for any holes in the armor. So they have every single advantage while we’re at a complete disadvantage. I’m focused on building services and quality into the site, not trying to figure out how to stop scammers.

How much time does it take from your teams day?
We have one person who manually reviews each and every single credit card transaction. And then we have a couple of people that review every single profile that comes through the system. Like I said, as they get better they slip through. You can only be so proactive and then you have to be reactive and wait for customer feedback. They’ll say, “Hey there’s something with this profile, check it out.” And then you can go in there. We’re always at a disadvantage waiting to react rather then trying to nip it in the butt before it becomes a problem.

How can the industry work together to combat scammers?
We could have some sort of common database that we can run like a hash on say an email address and IP address or something and compare it against the database and say, this IP address and this email address have made 40 accounts on 20 different dating sites today. But still it’s a lot of work. While valuable who wants to spend the money and time to do it.

How high on the priority list should it be for the industry to stamp out this problem?
It’s a daily priority for us. It’s built into operations. Like I said if it affects 5% of the business it’s not that ‘big’ of a problem. But is it a top priority? Of course it is, it always has to be. We have to work Saturday a
nd Sundays because those scammers realize that on the weekends we were staffed less. So they would start working much harder on Friday nights and Saturday mornings to try to get some mileage out ahead of us, until Monday morning. We had to put on weekend people.

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Fotolog to go Live With Userplane Messaging

Posted on May 10, 2007

UserplanePRESS RELEASE — May 8 — Fotolog™, the world’s largest photo-blogging community and third most-trafficked social media network, and Userplane, the premier communication platform for online communities, today announced that Fotolog will integrate the full set of Userplane’s Web communications and advertising tools. More than 150,000 online communities, from MySpace to the tiniest niche sites, deploy Userplane’s Web-based communication tools. The appeal of free, private-label chat, IM, interactive games and voice/video streaming attracts 5,000 new communities per week. Userplane serves 1 billion ads per month and is rolling out an advertising revenue-sharing program later this quarter.

Mark Brooks: Userplane is a subsidiary of AOL. Larger sites can reach business development manager Ian Swanson directly at (310) 442-5145.

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