TRIBUNE REVIEW — July 1 — In the bustle of daily life, where there are often two jobs to
work, kids to feed, a mortgage to pay and noses to wipe, what couple
has time for romance? The stresses of life, indeed, can sap the spark
and closeness out of a relationship. Romantic relationships have three stages: the initial
attraction (lust), the romance (falling in love), and the attachment
(where both partners become comfortable with each other). The comfort
is a good thing, but problems arise when couples reach this phase and
forget about the first two, says. Sam Yagan, CEO OkCupid.com.
If
daily life has sapped the spark from your marriage or relationship,
consider these tips from relationship experts for getting it back:
– Don’t pressure yourself about coming up with creative and
brilliant ideas; sometimes, the simplest things, like daily kisses,
mean the most.
– Focus on little acts of service that please your partner.
– When you’re watching TV on the couch, sit together and cuddle.
– Go on a vacation together sans kids.
– Give up a pet-peeve, some annoying habit, for the sake of your
partner.
– Have
regular relationship meetings and check-ups, where you talk openly
about what is going well, and any problems that are arising.
– Give a "tickle" every day, by tucking a love note in your
spouse’s briefcase, for instance, or sending a romantic text message.
– Make time for fun.
– Shatter the routine.
– Turn your workout time into couple time.
– Surprise your spouse with a weekend getaway.
– Try to understand and meet each other’s needs.
– Write down your five dream dates and then do them.
– Think in terms of "we" and "our" instead of "I" and "my."