WASHINGTON POST — June 1 — eHarmony operates on the theory that partners need to share certain key characteristics to better their chances of a successful long-term relationship. We caught up with Gonzaga to talk about that theory and what he has learned about love during his tenure at eHarmony.
Q: What are the core qualities partners should share if they want their love to last?
A: The big ones are personality traits. Things like how agreeable you are, how open you are to experience.
Q: Why does it matter so much that couples share these traits?
A: If you are similar to someone, it’s a lot easier to understand what it is they’re thinking.
Q: What about the adage “Opposites attract”?
A: Over the long haul if somebody’s really radically different, and they see the world in a different way, it’s going to be difficult to negotiate those things again and again and again.
Q: You just launched Compatible Partners. Do the same requirements for shared characteristics apply?
A: We think so. So right now we’re moving on the assumption that the same kinds of models are going to apply well, and then over time we’ll work on that model to tailor it as best as possible.
Q: Any surprises in your four years at the love lab?
A: In 2005 we found that there were 90 people a day who got married off of eHarmony. And two years later, it turns out 236 people a day got married or 44,000 couples a year.