CNN – Feb 11 - Gonzaga is the senior director of research and development at eHarmony.com. His book, "Dating the Second Time Around: Finding Love That Lasts," is packed with practical advice for people eager to give dating another shot.
Q: How do you define second-time love in your book?
A: Most of the people we talked to are divorced, but we think it's any significant relationship.
Q: What are some of the obstacles to dating after a long-term relationship or divorce?
A: Simply access. Where can you find single people who are also looking for relationships?
A: That's the other really big challenge. People feel like they aren't good at it because a relationship of theirs hasn't worked out.
Q: Can there be lessons learned from the previous relationships?
A: They know the things they absolutely have to have in a partner.
Q: Do you have any advice on how to approach a new relationship?
A: The first part is assessing yourself.
Q: How can you get over the stigma of the internet?
A: There are a lot of people who have met their spouses and partners online and you will find them all around you.
Q: What are the dos and don'ts of a first date?
A: Make sure you're comfortable with wherever the meeting is going to be. Spend more time getting to know the other person rather than trying to get them to know you. Don't share too much about yourself and don't try to sell yourself.
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