OPW – Nov 8 – I came across this video entitled The Innovation of Loneliness,
and adapted the soundtrack by live-voicing-overing it at the Internet
Dating Conference at iDate Cologne. The original was created by a
student of graphic design, Shimi Cohen. Please consider using his services if you need graphic design work.
Kudos! Brilliantly presented at all levels. Yet, I differ with this conclusion: “We aren’t just matching users, we’re responsible for shaping the next generation of human beings. It’s the last great social responsibility.”
The first sentence is true for singles, but not for marrieds. Loneliness, alienation and reduced expectations in marriage cause ‘romance on auto-pilot’, which is the primary cause of infidelity, unhappiness and ultimately divorce.
The challenge for singles can be better use of technology to foster F2F communication, but the rub for couples remains: What can you do after you say, “I do”? That is, how can technology help foster closer ongoing intimacy which binds a couple, rather than diverts their attention to the endless parade of shiny objects masquerading as ‘grass-is-greener-over-here’ temptations.
Phrased another way: What and who has the greater upside and burden: accepting our great expectations to meet a great mate (singles), or figuring out how to fulfill our great expectations once we’ve coupled (couples)?
Rocket science is hard. Living happily EVEN AFTER is our greatest challenge.
Kudos! Brilliantly presented at all levels. Yet, I differ with this conclusion: “We aren’t just matching users, we’re responsible for shaping the next generation of human beings. It’s the last great social responsibility.”
The first sentence is true for singles, but not for marrieds. Loneliness, alienation and reduced expectations in marriage cause ‘romance on auto-pilot’, which is the primary cause of infidelity, unhappiness and ultimately divorce.
The challenge for singles can be better use of technology to foster F2F communication, but the rub for couples remains: What can you do after you say, “I do”? That is, how can technology help foster closer ongoing intimacy which binds a couple, rather than diverts their attention to the endless parade of shiny objects masquerading as ‘grass-is-greener-over-here’ temptations.
Phrased another way: What and who has the greater upside and burden: accepting our great expectations to meet a great mate (singles), or figuring out how to fulfill our great expectations once we’ve coupled (couples)?
Rocket science is hard. Living happily EVEN AFTER is our greatest challenge.
Living happily EVEN AFTER. I like it.
Positive Psychology experts (and buddhists) have concluded that we often drive towards an end goal seeking happiness, only to find that when we achieve that goal it only brings a very fleeting happiness.
We drive towards the goal of marriage and having a family largely in a blinkered fashion.
I think the only real way to make happiness EVEN AFTER is utter devotion to bringing happiness to your family. (i.e. Its not about you. It never was).
Now how do you teach that in, Jeff? What’s your services do to help?
Living happily EVEN AFTER. I like it.
Positive Psychology experts (and buddhists) have concluded that we often drive towards an end goal seeking happiness, only to find that when we achieve that goal it only brings a very fleeting happiness.
We drive towards the goal of marriage and having a family largely in a blinkered fashion.
I think the only real way to make happiness EVEN AFTER is utter devotion to bringing happiness to your family. (i.e. Its not about you. It never was).
Now how do you teach that in, Jeff? What’s your services do to help?