WALL STREET JOURNAL – Dec 10 – Dating coaches differ from therapists by focusing on the present – helping people modify the behaviors and beliefs that prevent them from finding a romantic partner. They work with clients for short periods to assist them in meeting specific goals. But unlike most therapists, dating coaches don't have to be licensed. "The world of dating coaching is like the Wild West," says David Steele, founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute, an organization that offers training for coaches. So singles should watch out for coaches who come across as too slick or who use fear to motivate them. Why look to a stranger for help with something so personal? Coaches are more objective than friends or family members. The best coaches don't tell people what to do. They help them figure out themselves. Here are some recommendations from Diana Kirschner, founder of Love Mentor Coaching, to her clients:
- Be clear about what you're looking for.
- Casually date three people at first. Don't have sex right away.
- Optimize your profile if you're online dating. Lead with your qualities and don't be afraid to talk about what you want.
- Be open to meeting someone anywhere.
- Practice talking to attractive strangers.
- Be open about your intentions.
- If you like someone, ask the person out.
- Don't take rejection personally.
by Elizabeth Bernstein
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